9. Update....Ironic

After being told last week by the state that the mess & unsanitary home isn't of importance,  I find it ironic that another home inspection had been scheduled. Yes, scheduled! They gave him a week long warning that they will be coming over next week for another home inspection! If it's not if importance, then a) why is it being redone? And b) why are they giving him a warning that they are coming? Just another way to protect the father once again. It's all unacceptable to me!

8. Update

Last week, I emailed some state CPS heads trying to get some answers from someone. Here's what I said:
"I am writing to you because I feel that the CPS Office, specifically, the CPS Supervisor, Ms ____, of ____ County is not doing her job to protect my daughter.  I received a letter from Ms. ___ in September saying that she had been trying to get a hold of me and had been unsuccessful. She asked me if I could contact her. My daughter lives with her father in ___, WI and she told me that she had been working with them and providing counseling for my daughter. She wanted some background history of my daughter. She failed to tell me why and how she got involved. A week later, I found out from my daughter what had really happened and why Ms. ___ was involved. You can read the email from my daughter here:
https://drive.google.com/file/...
And these are the pictures I was sent: https://drive.google.com/file/...

I emailed Ms ___, questioning the event, and wondering how she was protecting my daughter, as I thought CPS was there to protect children. She replied back to me, telling me that my daughter has had a couple versions of the story, and that the father, Mr ___, admitted to slapping her across the face while trying to take her phone away, but had no excuse or reason why the bruising. She also told me that I should not be pulled into the drama and that I should just focus on getting my daughter help. She also told me that this was the original case that she has been assigned to investigate and that she had "begged" (her words not mine) the District Attorney not to open a case against Mr. ____ because she "knew this family well" (again her words, not mine). I am sorry but there are several things that I have a problem with that she told me regarding this. First of all, telling me that she knows this family well to me means that she is a friend of the family or something closer than what she should be. It immediately brought concerns to me and I wondered if she should of removed herself from the case due to a conflict of interest. Secondly, telling me that Mr. ____ has no idea where the bruising came from, no excuse, no recollection, nothing to say in regards to this, that I am just supposed to stand by and accept those answers. I can't even believe that CPS or the authorities would even accept those answers or non-answers as they may be. I cannot believe that first of all, she was left in the house after such an incident or allegation. I also cannot believe that I was not even contacted about the incident itself.

As if that wasn't enough, his home passed a home inspection. These are the pictures my daughter took of the home and it's conditions. https://drive.google.com/file/...

It's amazing that his home passed an inspection. It's amazing that considering the amount of vodka bottles around the house doesn't prove itself that a real problem exists. It's amazing the filth, the mold, the mess, completely unsanitary was acceptable for anyone to live in. AND Ms. ___, not only a CPS Employee, but a CPS Supervisor, passed this house on an inspection. To me this clearly tells me that she is definitely a friend or friend of the family and protecting Mr. ____ over protecting my daughter.

Last week, my daughter told me that she was going to be enrolled in Foster Care on the weekends, most likely every other weekend. She started last Friday night thru Sunday. Once again, I was not notified, I was not asked if she could come stay with me, nothing was discussed with me. Apparently Ms. ___ said Mr. ____ needs a break from his daughter and so she gets sent to a Foster home! Are you kidding me??? are my thoughts on this. This is completely ridiculous! On top of it, Ms. ___ picked my daughter up from school and took her to the Foster Home on Friday evening. But ironically, she did not drop my daughter off at her father's house on Sunday. Hmmm, was she purposely avoiding seeing the inside of his home?

There is constant verbal abuse besides the occasional physical abuse. My daughter's boyfriend has several recordings regarding the verbal abuse from not only Mr. ___, but also his mother, Mrs. ___ ___.

I just feel that the CPS department of ___ County and the CPS Supervisor are not protecting my daughter in the ways that this department is supposed to. I hope that you will please investigate so that my daughter gets the protection she deserves.

Thank you for your time. Feel free to contact me if you have any questions."

So then I talked to her on the on the phone afterwards and she proceeded to tell me their definition of child abuse. "Bruises are not considered child abuse. Only lacerations and broken bones are considered child abuse." I said, but ma'am these are not your ordinary bruises! She said yeah I see that, but bruises are not child abuse! What???!!! She also said that due to my daughter's age, she can maneuver over everything without a problem. I couldn't believe what she told me. These laws need to change. I see on the local news all the time, children are removed from their homes due to hoarders & messes. I also see on the news incidents that are less in severity (than choking a child, but still an important issue, don't get me wrong) and the child or children are removed from the home. My only thought that constantly comes to mind, what if he tries to choke her again and what if he succeeds? Who is going to answer to me then? She sent me an email to summarize some of what we discussed on the phone.

I beg for your help in gathering the funds to file for custody and bring her back home safely. I'm not one who likes to ask for help or even share my personal life so this has been really hard to do, but I don't know what else I can do to save my daughter. 

7. How you can help

I've created this blog so that I would able to share the story. So please read all of the 6 other posts. I desperately need the $ for the retainer fee for my attorney so I can file the custody papers right away and start the battle to bring my daughter home safely, before anything worse happens to her. 

Her father is constantly going on a power trip with her, constantly threatening to call the police on her and telling her that she will be the one to go to jail. He constantly threatens to take her phone away from her, knowing that she won't be able to call for help if she doesn't have a phone. I still can't fathom how he can allow her to go into foster care on the weekends, so he can get a break! I 'm just sick and feel completely helpless at this time, knowing that money is the thing that is keeping me from keeping her safe.  I have invited my daughter's boyfriend to come post here as he can tell of incidents he has witnessed recently and during the last year. 

Please help, I don't like asking anyone for help, but I am desperate at this moment to save my daughter's life. I am so terrified that another incident will occur that won't end well.

6. Upsetting

I've almost caught you up to date. Since being in contact with my daughter, I have witnessed many things. I have overheard verbal abuse from her paternal grandmother, who she spends a lot of time at her house. We've been disconnected because her aunt asked her once who she was on the phone with, and when she replied, "my mom", aunt yelled, "get off the phone now", daughter replied no, and aunt grabbed for the phone and we were disconnected. Let me just state this, I am not a horrible person, I do not have a problem with alcohol or drugs, I never have ever in my lifetime had a problem with alcohol or drugs. Of course, when I was in my 20s, I partied it up, but as soon as I got pregnant with my first, the parties stopped for me. I wanted to be a positive role model for my children. I was afraid, what if one night, I was passed out drunk and there was a fire? I would never ever want to bring any harm to any of my children. And when I got pregnant, I grew up and became that responsible mom that I always wanted to be. I have 2 other children that are younger. I was investigated by my local CPS last year due to a false complaint made, which CPS even knew from the original complaint that it was most likley false, but still had to do their jobs and investigate me. They spoke with my other 2 children at their school and checked them out for signs of abuse. They spoke with my children's principal and I think even my pastor. I've helped out at the kids schools for years, volunteered and helped out with our local recreation department coaching volleyball, volunteered with my oldest daughter at many girl scout outings and events. I was a stay at home mom for 13 years and didn't start working until a year ago. My kids have always been my life, I live for them, and I try to do everything I possibly can for them to make them happy. I live for their smiles, their giggles, their hugs and their kisses. They are the best thing that ever happened in my life. That's why it hurt so much when my daughter left me and went to live with her dad. I'm not perfect, I make mistakes, but I always try to do the right thing, to set the right example for my kids.

Okay, so enough about me. Here's what is upsetting to me. Every other Tuesday, the CPS Supervisor, the father, the paternal grandmother, my daughter, and her boyfriend, have a meeting. Daughter was informed today that she will be going into foster care on the weekends to give father and paternal grandmother a break as daughter is stressing them out! ARE YOU KIDDING ME??? How can this be done without even contacting me? If father can't handle her, then send her back down to mother, who can and wants her every single day of the week, month and year! This is just plain ridiculous and I can't even fathom the idea of having my daughter entering foster care when there is NO reason why she can't just come live with me.

So here is my dilemma... I live 3 1/2 hours away from my daughter right now. Last weekend when her and I spent the weekend together, she cried and cried and begged me not to bring her back to her father. Not wanting to get into legal trouble, as I know this "man" would call the police on me for kidnapping her if I didn't return her, it broke my heart to tell her, not yet. Being that he lives in a small town, where everyone around is related or a friend of the family, it's even more difficult of a battle for me. This is where I need your help. I contacted my attorney up there, and I need a significant amount of money to bring her home. The retainer needed is $2,500 and I was told that it could cost me up to $10,000! If you can donate, please I am desperate and I am not one who likes to ask anyone for help. But at this point, I do not know what else I can do and a friend suggested that I try social fundraising. If you can't donate, please help by sharing this with your social networks.

I have emailed the district attorney, as the case is still open against this "man". Of course to which, I have not received a reply yet. Here is a copy of the email I sent:

5. The Home Inspection

So, this CPS supervisor, tried to make it look like she was doing her job and did a home inspection that passed. Look at the pictures of this home and tell me if you think this should of passed.  Filth, mold, empty bottles of booze, unsanitary, but who am I say, I don't have a social worker's degree. Oh, and if you have a child with depression, do you leave guns out in the open? But here's the Living room area, I believe:

Here's what I believe is a spare room/laundry room, take note of the mold on the ceiling:

 Here's pictures of the kitchen area, can you count how many empty bottles? If this doesn't show that there is a problem just with alcohol, I don't know what will.

 Here is what I believe to be HIS bedroom and a hallway:

And last, but not least, here's pics of the bathroom, mold on the walls & all...

I'll be back later on, to post more on how you can help me help my daughter.